One of the few things I know about writing is this: spend it all, shoot it, play it, lose it, all, right away, every time. Do not hoard what seems good for a later place in the book, or for another book; give it, give it all, give it now. The impulse to save something good for a better place later is the signal to spend it now. Something more will arise for later, something better. These things fill from behind, from beneath, like well water. Similarly, the impulse to keep to yourself what you have learned is not only shameful, it is destructive. Anything you do not give freely and abundantly becomes lost to you. You open your safe and find ashes.
From The Writing Life, pages 78-79. I agree whole-heartedly and would also apply this to friendship, romantic love, work, life itself.
I’ve seen hundreds of ‘em, bit of breakfast in hand, running wild and shining to catch their little season ticket train, for fear they’d get dismissed if they didn’t; working at businesses they were afraid to take the trouble to understand; skedaddling back for fear they wouldn’t be in time for dinner; keeping indoors after dinner for fear of the back streets, and sleeping with the wives they married, not because they wanted them, but because they had a bit of money that would make for safety in their one little miserable skedaddle through the world.
Found on pages 218-219.
Okay, fine, maybe that’s a bit hyperbolic, but here’s an awesome message I received yesterday that made me feel like maybe I’m doing more than being narcissistic with the Yes, Jessica? podcast:
About a year ago you had posted/blogged/talked about asking for more money at work if you think it’s deserved so the next day I told my boss I want a promotion and raise. Well that all went through last Thursday. If I hadn’t asked I wouldn’t have gotten it. Thanks!
I think I discussed asking for a raise on this episode, but I can’t remember for sure and I don’t have time to re-listen. Regardless, the message is the same–if you aren’t making enough money, ask for more, even if it feels scary or pointless. Ask! Ask, ask, ask!